Recently, I realised My 1st batch of cousins are all at their late teens, they’ve grown up a lot. Most of them are planning and pursuing to college and i’m so willing to advice them on career and life plan.
My poor cousin may not be studying oversea because she hasn’t been getting any support from family and friends. Family thinks she is naive and too dependant. Friends think she is not so academically “PERFECT” and hence shouldn’t be wasting time and parent’s money. Hope your parents and friend can read what i’m going to write here.
I wasn’t an independant kid when i was studying oversea. Over my 3 yrs of life in KL, i’ve been cheated, cheated ppl, i’ve been robbed, i’ve been sick, lost my ICs (2 ics), lost my money, food poisoned, slapped by bitch, fell into a drain and etc… so what? really, so what?? i’ve overcame all these, I stood up and am ready to face more challenges.
The lawyer in our family almost got retained when she was in the secondary. (Actually she supposed to be retained, but some how she appealed) I don’t think any of yours result is worst than hers… and see what she got today? (don’t sue me for leaking this out 
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Sometimes, it is not about the money you going to spend, and the money you going to earn in future, is about the experience you going to gain and the person you were to become. You are dependant, but you will not become independant if you stay at where you are. Even if something really bad going to happen to you, (not as bad as death) its just part of your life, its all about the person you gonna be at the end, and always remember, you will never gonna be the most unfortunate person on earth.
I’m sure my mum never regret sending me out of Brunei!! My parents didn’t let me go at the very beginning, what it did was to write to the college and get the form all filled and asked Money from my mum.
Cousins, everyone of you should experience the non-Brunei life and life without your family. Go Go!!
若有好的深造環境輿該學院可觀的知名度，應該去嘗試！别像我這樣，沒錢所以待在大馬深造。若有機會重來的話，我希望是倫敦！
其实读什么大学，有没有知名度，并不太重要，这个方面只是在你第一， 二份工有帮助，其他的时候， 都是靠经验，工作态度。有时因为你读太好的学校， 因为有点自以为是，而倒至态度问题。
一个态度不好的人，是不会完全成功的。就算有了一大笔钱，也不会在人际上成功。
Well written, Milkmaid, well written.
那當然囉，人格是定局！無論怎樣，還是出國深造比較爽。起碼可以待在那裡發展前程，呵呵……
I totally agree with you SJ. In north America here, I have lots of friends spend years and years in school. After their degree, they get their Master, then their PhD. In the end, they expect to get a high pay for all the years of education BUT they have not real life working experience! Who the hell wants to hire them? In the end they still end up with jobs that normal ppl got. Nothing extra ordinary! Same average pay.. some even have hard time with the full-time working life.
The most important thing is the experience to be dependant. You have to encourage your cousins to go out and experience life. Report card and marks are not as important!
Better to be Street Smart than Book Smart. Look at all those rich people around the world. Most of them are not good in school. Not many come from famous schools. But they are willing to take up challenges and have believe in themselve!
That is how they become rich and famous!
i will get them to read this post and comments.. street smart and act smart and be smart!
Well, I always said “Life is yours, but the ones gave you life was your parents”, another words you can do whatever you like but financial support was from your parents. Unless, like myself, earned money first, later persuade what you want for life. Most important is yourself, whether you have the determination to overcome problems, & persuade your dreams. You have to prove to ppl that ” Trust me, I know what I am doing”.
Again, I must say I don’t believe old folks said,” I ate more salts than you ate rice”. They have their experiences, they can give you advices, but the choice is yours, no body can stop you. You have to responsible for your decision. Do something to convince your parents, prove to them you can do it.
Here, I tell you what I regret. I regretted I did not continue from my diploma to degree. If only I spent another 3 years continue to chartered accountant. May be everything will be different. I also regretted that I did not start my diploma earlier………
Time keeps going, if you are not on your track, you will lose at the end…….. Regret….Regret…….