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Family Planning

So tomorrow is the day!

Referring back to my Life List, “married with 2 kids”. I made it and god blessed i have a boy and a girl. So i guess that’s it!

Before i made this decision, I have always wonder why my friends would get “accidents” after they decided to settle with 2 kids. I also heard stories of people get “Accidents” when they are in the process of getting temporary Contraception Methods. I do not want to follow my mum’s footstep of having a baby at age 48!

I figured out that one day i would regret of having just 2 kids hence i gonna list down all my reasons here of shutting my factory down.

I spoken to mums with more than 2 grown up kids, they all find having more than 2 kids are still not enough. I should learn to be contended with just 2 kids.

Is getting more and more expensive to raise kids, especially we send them to Interation School. Travelling is cheaper and easier with just 2 kids rather than 3 or 4. Imagine the extra room and extra taxi that you would need. and in case of anything, is easier to have 1 parent to save 1 kid.

I always want to be fair to both of them, i made hand casting for 1, and i did the same for the 2nd. I wrote Baby Memory book for him, and i did for her. Now i still owe her 2 photobooks and have no idea how i gonna catch up with that.

My body is not getting any healthier with more kids and i want to get healthier for my kids. I am getting more and more forgetful and i guess having more kids will make it worst. I breastfed my daughter til 3 years old, i have to be fair to my 3rd if it ever happen. No!

For the sake of myself and my kids, yes tomorrow is the day!

Initially i plan to do it in Miri as the price is 3 x cheaper, but the doctors wouldn’t do for me. Hence gonna fix at Jpmc.

Good Luck to me !!

 

Dear Meghan

Its been a long breastfeeding relationship with you. I love it when you smile with your head nodding asking for Nen Nen time. I love it when you waited for me to give you Nen Nen time at night. I love to hear all funny noises you make during feeding.

Knowing you are my last born, I would love to wean you off naturally, following your will, without any cries.

But i think its time to stop now as you are not able to sleep well, waking up looking for Nennen couple of times and you would latch for the whole night. There are also decays on your teeth which left a tiny hole at your front tooth. My back are soaring from the side feeding every night. Tomorrow will be your first night sleeping without me around since you existed in this world.

I hope you can take it well. Love you

 

Mummy

 

 

she danced like a bird, always the star of our dance..

she sang like a star, soft and full of emotions..

she acted like a pro, always the main character in our dramas..

she gave speeches, story-telling.. like no one ever had done at our school..

she inspired others, she was idolised by the juniors..

she loves details of things she saw.. the earrings on the performers, the shades on the mountain, the colors of the river..

she is a perfectionist.. she picked the most perfect photos for her ig..

She is a wanderlust.. she been to every continents and experienced the most..

She is my true friend, she comforted me with a pat on my shoulder.. she always there for me.. she never turns me down even i requested her to do things she didn’t want to… she listened to me.. she defended for me..

you are now gone.. just like other super stars… you are always the brightest star in my heart.

我的女儿。。明显的比哥哥调皮。。比哥哥好动的多。。比。。比。。比。。不比了。。

你有你许多特别的地方。。

你会特别喜欢做出顽皮的动作。。

你会特别喜欢跳。。跳水也没问题。。

你特别勇敢的溜滑梯。。

你特别会打报告。。

你特别会关心人。。那天你多自然的拿了一瓶水放在正在吃面的我的面前,之后你继续吃你的面。感动到妈妈快流泪。。

1. Went to Taiwan and attended the Buddhist Children Teaching Course together with a lot of wonderful people from Singapore and Malaysia.

2. Deeply touched while visiting an orphan house in Taiwan

3. Official teacher in the Buddhist Light International Association, Brunei.

4. I am seeing someone now 🙂

5. Visited Borobodor

6. Visited Old Folk House in Seria Brunei

7. Double Promoted to Yellow 2 Belt from White Belt in Taekwando

8. Attended Autocad Class

9. Worked as a Part Time Lecturer in Diploma in Computing.

10. Shifted home twice due to Land Erosion

11. Went on a Hen’s Nite Trip to KK

12. Went through a tragic with my family

13. Can cook white fungus dessert now

Is a shamed I didn’t complete this post.. I have no idea wat I suppose to write.. Posted after 10 yrs

昨晚。。10/4/2017

昨晚,你突然把我抱得紧紧的。。揉着我的脛,过了5分钟,我想解开,但你抱的更紧。我们这样待了很久。。孩子呀,妈妈要谢谢你现在把我放在你心里最重要的位置。。妈妈也很想永远这样给你抱着。。有一天,你会长大,有一天妈妈会老去,也会离开你。。你要记得妈妈即使走了,我们母子的关系永远都在。记得,想妈妈时,吃吃妈妈爱吃的食物吧。。拉面,干捞面。。帮妈妈吃,帮妈妈享受好吗?妈妈爱你。。祝你五岁生日快乐。。

第二个孩子

也许是年纪大了,想生第二个。。倒没像第一个那么容易。。试了一年半多才成功。。所以是难得的孩子呀!

我当然是希望生个女儿。。渴望是从和一个朋友妈妈交谈中燃起的。。她说媳妇永远不会变女儿。。在媳妇家住多不自在呀。。

要去泰国游玩的前几天就和儿子老公去照照宝宝的性别。。但我把握也不大,因为肚子形状的尖尖的。。但还是带着希望。。在停车场就叮咛宝宝,待会脚要开大大哦。。万万想不到宝宝是个女宝宝!

待续。。。

36岁了..

36 岁咯。。
目前还可以骗人说自己26岁。。白发有两三条。。
钱没有赚多啦。。可是还觉得自己不太差。。
目前还是没有太大的人生计划。。旅游计划比较多。。
嫁人咯。。两个小孩咯。。觉得自己最幸福的地方就是爸爸妈妈都还健在。img-20161208-wa0063

The Pink Cake

(Conversation Between SJ and Zing on Msn)

SJ: I wanna pass you something.
Zing (in Singapore): what is that? a Pink Cake? or Potato Chips?

I’m surprised that my ex secondary friend still can remember the pink cake and potato chips :”) 1997, I was picking up cooking and i was always proud to bring my experiments to school. Zing used to sit right beside me and she always had the honour to be the first one to try my experiments. I still remember Jamie gave me the Potato Chips receipe and I brought the experiment to school. It was Black, and not so crispy. It was black not because it was overcooked, but it was oxidized. Jamie said the taste was there, but just the look was out of the way. Lim Poh wrote a comment on my autograph “I will always remember the Black black thing that you brought to school”.

I remember I made the Pink cake but i could’t remember i brought it to school. I decided to share the story about the pink cake here, because its one of the naive things i did during my school days.

I used to read a lot of Slam Dunk and that made me attracted to guys who are tall and play basketball. There was this guy who was tall and slim (“was” because the last time i saw him he was not slim anymore), with long hair and played basketball in our school almost every afternoon. I was attracted to him one afternoon when he was playing basketball with naked upperbody and a short and tight boxer-like pants. I believe I wasn’t the only gal who was staring at him. He said Hi to me one day, we talked, then we became Friends and hanged out together few times in some occassions.

It was the Mooncake festival of 1997, we went to the temple together. I rushed home early that day, and made a pink cake of a shape and size of a mooncake for him. I believe i also brought some of the other shapes to school the next day. and tat’s the Pink cake that Zing was refering to. Actually I’m happy that she still remember what i did 11 yrs ago 😛

After the Mooncake Festival, he went back to UK for his studies.. and that ended my Basketball player Fantasy!!

We bought the 8:30am VIP Bus ticket to Vientiane a day earlier. I woke up at 7am that morning (seriously i haven’t been like me when i was in Laos, i wake up real early everyday) The same friendly attendant/waiter attended to us when we checking out again. I really like him and we tipped him and i told him “You are very nice”. While walking to Scanidavian Bakery, I was telling myself that I will miss this morning walk to Breakfast in Luangprabang. It was really peaceful and the weather was great! and couldn’t wait to have breakfast every morning. We were approached by a tuk tuk driver, but we rejected him. He still followed us all the way to Scanidavian and he told us he will wait for us til we finish our breakfast.

It took us about 4 minutes walk to Scanidavian Bakery. I read about Scanidavian from travel blogs and i was told it can’t be missed. We were not sure what to order, so we both ordered croissants. Mine is Chocolate Croissants and Ken had Ham in Croissants. I think it was really good!!  ( i bought another chocolate croissants in KL Airport after a few days, and i tell u the the Croissant in KL Airport is really Sux!) I suppose Scanidavian is a german bakery as it has logo of a pretzel and it also has outlets worldwide. While Louis was out for photo shooting, there was this boy who approached everyone in the bakery to buy his bracelets, but  me. I suppose he thought I’m a local. When Louis was back, We were then approached by another Lao Gal. (Does that mean i really look like Lao? or look like Local Companion)

I found this lao gal who approached us very sweet, nice and polite. I spent sometime picking the bracelet and asked for some discount. I really like her so i didn’t ask for much discount. We ended up buying 6 bracelet at 60 000kip (about USD7). I gave her a small notebook with a pen which i brought from Brunei. Soon after she left, a little lao boy came. He asked us how much we got for our bracelet and offered 3 for 10 000kip!! i was totally ripped off by the gal! haha.. So we bought more from him, but i only left goodies for the gals, so i didn’t give anything to this nice boy.

We finished our breakfast at 8:10 am then get into the tuktuk, he waited 30mins and we still asked for discount from him. We gave him USD 2 to him. While leaving the town of Luang Prabang, I knew i will miss this place.

The VIP Bus is a big Yellow Bus, is really big and high up, with Toilet in it. However the toilet room is small and ceiling is really low. When i went in, my head can touched the ceiling. and While the bus is moving, the water in the toilet bowl might wave up and wet you. So i only went in once and i found it real disgusting. Our allocated seat was just right in front of the staircase to the toilet and a tv, and we can rest our feet on to the grip of the staircase. Throughout the bus ride, i have slight car sick, but it was alright, and i would say its comfortable, really worth paying extra for that. They played a Lao Funny show once at the beginning of the ride. The bus conductor first gave each of us a Bun, then followed with a Plastic bag. I suppose the bag is for us to puke or throw rubbish. But when Louis asked him what’s the bag for, the Bus Conductor said is “CONDOM”. haha… Very good PR Skill. During the ride, we saw some nice scenery, rainbow, and a well which reminds me of Plain of Jars.  At 1:30, we stopped at Kasi for Lunch. We were served with Mixed RIce (Chak Fan), but when it was my turn all the dishes were gone, so i picked soup noodles. Louis’s Mixed Rice was nice, wondering how come we didn’t get to eat such local lao food in restaurant. The bus stopped at Vang Vieng after 5 Hrs. Some ppl got down and some new ppl came in to the bus. I miss Vang Vieng too!

We finally arrived at Vientiane at 6pm. the feeling was great and we were back to the first Bus Station when we were leaving to Vang Vieng, the very first place we visited in Laos. We were approached by a Tuk Tuk man to drive us to the Central or Guest House. His tuk tuk was already full, so we got into the front passenger seat. and paid 10 000kip per person. We waited quite sometimes b4 he started the ride, it was so packed at the back. We finally see the City of VIentiane, then we stopped at Intercity hotel which is beside the Mekong RIver. We waited for very long time, duno waiting for what. I was about to get down and walk to our guest house as i roughly know where it is. But the driver got back to the tuk tuk when i was about to leave.

We arrived at Saysouly at 7pm. Saysouly Guesthouse (sounds like Say Sorry) is a very big house with 20 over rooms. It cost us USD13 for a aircon ensuite. Our room is on the 1st floor and we had to pass by the shared bathrooms to get to the staircase. Its normally wet outside the bathrooms, we tried to walk as fast as we could to pass by the bathrooms. The room is full of mosquitos and the bathroom wasn’t clean. After dropping our luggage, we went out for dinner. I told the macho receptionist that the room is full of mosquitos and he promised me that he will spray later.

Our GUesthouse is just a minute walk from Mekong RIver. We walked along the shops along the Mekong River then hunting for a restaurant along the river to settle down. We found one with a macho waiter at about 8pm. I ordered tomyam soup with fish, GreenCurry with Mixed Vege, 2 Prawns. There were ladies approaching us to buy their sotong bakar and also children begging for money. I didn’t see any Beggers throughout the whole trip til i reached vientiane. After our dinner, We saw Gabriel and Ah Man!! They were so surprise to see us too! we joined their table and had a long chat. Gabriel and Ah man are the UK + Thai Couple we were in the same tourgroup in VangVieng. Ah man showed us the China phone he bought from the Morning market and recommended us to visit the next day. She told us thailand is just within our sight across the river. Yes.. we could see Thailand! They also told us its been raining after the day we left Vangvieng and the water turns Brown, and a lot of unidentified insects flying around and biting their eye lid. I really felt so lucky that we left Vang Vieng Early.

We then went for Durian Hunt, It was 9:30! A tuk tuk who thought he can understand us brought us to the fountain area where Scanidavian Vientiane is. We told them we didn’t want food, we want Durian, then i drew him a durian, then only he brought us to somewhere near the morning market for Durian. The durians are all thailand durian, not Lao durian. We spent 30 000kip for that durian. Its nice! We then took the same tuk tuk back to the guesthouse, However we didn’t have enuf kip to pay him. So we went to the cyber cafe around for a short while then get the change and paid him.

I checked with the Macho Receptionist about the Monk’s alms. He said the Monks passed by the guest house at 5:30 am and his tip to me is “Must give to every monk” and its about 9 of them.